Turns on: I get excited by moments of genuine connection, when I feel attention and interest. I love it when my conversation partner is sincere and open, and when the interaction is filled with flirtation and mystery. For me, it's important that we both feel comfortable and able to open up in this space.. Turns off: I’m turned off by dishonesty and manipulation. I don’t like when people try to be someone they’re not. I also can’t tolerate rudeness or disrespect, both towards me and others. For me, openness, respect, and sincerity are essential..